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Why You Should Never Ask Someone to “Pick Their Brain”

By February 18, 2020July 3rd, 2020No Comments

Here’s a networking bad habit to end right now: sending enthusiastic “you two should know each other” emails or “pick your brain” invitations to meet potential contacts over coffee. Neither networking ask is a career compliment, and they definitely aren’t the best ways to build a strong connection. Kelly explains why in this episode and offers alternative approaches that are far more likely to succeed.

Key takeaways:

  • It is in your best interest to act in the best interest of the members of your network.
  • Examine your networking choices from multiple angles.

What to listen for:

  • 02:13    Be helpful, but with a healthy dose of self-interest: a personal networking story
  • 05:29    Dos and don’ts of networking
  • 06:38    Networking is a self-interested but what is best for you is doing what is best for others

Quotes:

“A good networking choice has to be a good networking decision for everyone else involved.” [05:00]

Need more on this networking topic? Check out these posts on the Build Your Dream blog (as Kelly clearly has a lot to say about it):

And this earlier Reputation Killers episode of the podcast.

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J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey is a problem solver who believes that most professional challenges—whether funding, landing a board position or getting a new job—are solved by tapping into networks.Kelly is a popular speaker on networking, community building and investing issues, especially as they relate to women, and has worked with the IEEE, PGA, Bank of America, Apple and countless others. Follow Kelly on Twitter @jkhoey and on Instagram @jkellyhoey and join the #BYDN community at www.buildyourdreamnetwork.com