Yes, Miss Manners Still Matters

By May 16, 2017January 26th, 2019No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

It’s foolish to think that old-school etiquette no longer matters in the age of mobile and social. Wrong! Just because we’re sending #thanks via Instagram or birthday greetings on Facebook, doesn’t mean we’re given a pass on politeness. Be considerate not a networking jerk. Correct your modern networking bad habits this month with these suggestions:

  • Skip the FOMO and stop leaving a host guessing: RSVP promptly to all invitations (remember, if you’ve focused your career goals, then selecting what to attend or not, should be easier!).
  • Read the fine print on the invitation: Don’t assume the host wants you to bring a +1 and your own #hashtag.
  • Give thanks by following up with a personalized note, text or tweet (or depending on the host, all of the above).

As I note in Chapter 7 of #BYDN:

 Your ability to network successfully — that is, your ability to build strong relationships — is based on trust and the quality of your connections, not on whether the number of your Twitter followers increased because of a trending hashtag. Relationships shape your professional road map, not fast Facebook friends. Inserting some good, old-fashioned, predigital consideration back into your networking exchanges, will make you stand apart from the crowd.

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

Kelly Hoey is the author of Build Your Dream Network (January 2017 / Tarcher Perigee). She has been lauded from Forbes (“1 of 5 Women Changing the World of VC/Entrepreneurship”) to Fast Company (“1 of the 25 Smartest Women On Twitter”) to Business Insider (“1 of the 100 Most Influential Tech Women On Twitter”) and Inc. (1 of “10 Most Well-Connected People in New York City's Startup Scene”). Empowering A Billion Women By 2020 included her on their list of the “100 Most Influential Global Leaders Empowering Women Worldwide”. Not bad for a former corporate lawyer. She’s a limited partner in two emerging tech funds (Laconia Capital Group and Lattice Ventures) and can frequently be found on Twitter @jkhoey.