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Yes, Miss Manners Still Matters

By May 16, 2017January 26th, 2019No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

It’s foolish to think that old-school etiquette no longer matters in the age of mobile and social. Wrong! Just because we’re sending #thanks via Instagram or birthday greetings on Facebook, doesn’t mean we’re given a pass on politeness. Be considerate not a networking jerk. Correct your modern networking bad habits this month with these suggestions:

  • Skip the FOMO and stop leaving a host guessing: RSVP promptly to all invitations (remember, if you’ve focused your career goals, then selecting what to attend or not, should be easier!).
  • Read the fine print on the invitation: Don’t assume the host wants you to bring a +1 and your own #hashtag.
  • Give thanks by following up with a personalized note, text or tweet (or depending on the host, all of the above).

As I note in Chapter 7 of #BYDN:

Your ability to network successfully — that is, your ability to build strong relationships — is based on trust and the quality of your connections, not on whether the number of your Twitter followers increased because of a trending hashtag. Relationships shape your professional road map, not fast Facebook friends. Inserting some good, old-fashioned, predigital consideration back into your networking exchanges, will make you stand apart from the crowd.

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey is a problem solver who believes that most professional challenges—whether funding, landing a board position or getting a new job—are solved by tapping into networks.Kelly is a popular speaker on networking, community building and investing issues, especially as they relate to women, and has worked with the IEEE, PGA, Bank of America, Apple and countless others. Follow Kelly on Twitter @jkhoey and on Instagram @jkellyhoey and join the #BYDN community at