Skip to main content
AdviceGrace Hopper ConferenceNetworkingRelationshipsWomen In Tech

Build Your Dream: Networking Q&A

By October 18, 2017January 22nd, 2019No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

Q: It was great to hear you at GHC17. I appreciate the advice that you gave on networking using social media: we have to be true to ourselves. I have two additional questions that I wanted to ask.

1. How can you represent your true self on social media when we are constantly changing? What we used to think/believe 5 years ago may no longer be the case later. Since we are constantly evolving, using social media to represent my self, am I doing injustice to my future self?

2. I work in a large corporation and am trying to expand my network. I’m having challenges connecting with colleagues who “don’t look like me”. How do you network with someone who seems like they are not interested?

My Answers:

It is interesting that we now live in times where there is a permanent record of a mere moment in time. And we shall grapple with it and figure it out. Perhaps that is the reason some people only share the superficial or part of their lives — so that the future is not tainted by a moment. But, if we wait till we are fully developed, we may never engage and participate. I believe that is worse than having an old view or old dress on display.

On connecting with others — you’ve hit the nail on the head on the challenge. You say X and they hear Y. A suggestion is to volunteer on a community project or committee — intentionally picking an opportunity to meet others (vs people you typically work with). I find that when we work on something together, towards a common goal, connections come more easily.

Have you picked up a copy of Build Your Dream Network? It is available in hardcover, eBook and audio format. Love a paperback? You can pre-order your copy (January 2, 2018 release).

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey is a problem solver who believes that most professional challenges—whether funding, landing a board position or getting a new job—are solved by tapping into networks.Kelly is a popular speaker on networking, community building and investing issues, especially as they relate to women, and has worked with the IEEE, PGA, Bank of America, Apple and countless others. Follow Kelly on Twitter @jkhoey and on Instagram @jkellyhoey and join the #BYDN community at