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Let’s Talk About The ‘Hey, My Long Lost Friend’ Networkers

By July 10, 2019No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

Actual text extracted from a recent email.

It’s been many moons, but I wanted to reach out and say hello! I was searching through Google for influencers and there you were! HAHA! I hope that you are extremely blessed these days, I have no doubt you are. You were one of the smartest, innovative and amazing people I’ve ever met and I just wanted to reach out and say hello….and I’m working on a start up right now…and I’m looking to build my brand and expand quickly. To say that I respect your opinion and advice would be an extreme understatement, but you are the guru, the standard, in what you do. If you don’t have the time, would you be able to point me in the right direction? 

No, I cannot make this sh*t up.

It is one of my “hey hey hey” can you or could you or I need or do you know emails I receive from people who I haven’t heard from in a very looong time.

So let’s have some #BYDN fun with it! Here’s the challenge I have for you:

REDESIGN the worst






You were the recipient of.

What about it really annoyed YOU? Lack of connection? Bad timing? Annoying tone? Another endless, repetitive ask? Lacking empathy? Poorly explained?

HOW could the sender have “asked” in a way that resonated with you?*

*are you now agonizing over communications you have personally sent…if so, GOOD! Now you’re in the #BYDN mindset.

AND if you’re inclined to share the story with me. Fabulous. Networking misery loves company and I’d love to share in your pain!

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

Kelly Hoey is the author of Build Your Dream Network (January 2017 / Tarcher Perigee). She has been lauded from Forbes (“1 of 5 Women Changing the World of VC/Entrepreneurship”) to Fast Company (“1 of the 25 Smartest Women On Twitter”) to Business Insider (“1 of the 100 Most Influential Tech Women On Twitter”) and Inc. (1 of “10 Most Well-Connected People in New York City's Startup Scene”). Empowering A Billion Women By 2020 included her on their list of the “100 Most Influential Global Leaders Empowering Women Worldwide”. Not bad for a former corporate lawyer. She’s a limited partner in two emerging tech funds (Laconia Capital Group and Lattice Ventures) and can frequently be found on Twitter @jkhoey.