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Let’s Talk About The ‘Hey, My Long Lost Friend’ Networkers

By July 10, 2019No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

Actual text extracted from a recent email.

It’s been many moons, but I wanted to reach out and say hello! I was searching through Google for influencers and there you were! HAHA! I hope that you are extremely blessed these days, I have no doubt you are. You were one of the smartest, innovative and amazing people I’ve ever met and I just wanted to reach out and say hello….and I’m working on a start up right now…and I’m looking to build my brand and expand quickly. To say that I respect your opinion and advice would be an extreme understatement, but you are the guru, the standard, in what you do. If you don’t have the time, would you be able to point me in the right direction? 

No, I cannot make this sh*t up.

It is one of my “hey hey hey” can you or could you or I need or do you know emails I receive from people who I haven’t heard from in a very looong time.

So let’s have some #BYDN fun with it! Here’s the challenge I have for you:

REDESIGN the worst






You were the recipient of.

What about it really annoyed YOU? Lack of connection? Bad timing? Annoying tone? Another endless, repetitive ask? Lacking empathy? Poorly explained?

HOW could the sender have “asked” in a way that resonated with you?*

*are you now agonizing over communications you have personally sent…if so, GOOD! Now you’re in the #BYDN mindset.

AND if you’re inclined to share the story with me. Fabulous. Networking misery loves company and I’d love to share in your pain!

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey is a problem solver who believes that most professional challenges—whether funding, landing a board position or getting a new job—are solved by tapping into networks.Kelly is a popular speaker on networking, community building and investing issues, especially as they relate to women, and has worked with the IEEE, PGA, Bank of America, Apple and countless others. Follow Kelly on Twitter @jkhoey and on Instagram @jkellyhoey and join the #BYDN community at