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The Crazy Thing About Networking – It’s Hard To Scale

By July 3, 2019No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

This crazy thing called “networking” is about building strong relationships, taking smart, considerate actions to forge stronger bonds within your myriad of networks aka relationships, connections, communities. It seems “easy” on the surface (YOU know – just RSVP, just show-up, just hand out a business card…) and it isn’t, BUT it can be enjoyable again in spite of the confusion, social anxiety and overwhelming number of options.

To scale your career ambitions., you have to continuously do a very unscalable thing…..

You must spend time

  • thinking about
  • meeting
  • focused on
  • considering
  • listening to                                                                   

other people

HOW do you do that?

Start With EMPATHY

Empathy: 

  • For the tasks you’ve laid out for yourself.
  • For the people you’ll be interacting with.
  • For the rollercoaster of emotions this crazy career or business journey you’re on is tossing up.

Let me guess. Does “empathy” sound too soft? Too intangible as an effective networking requirement? If so, then think about:

  • Affinity
  • Alliance
  • Preference           
  • Rapport                       
  • Insight                       
  • Disposition            
  • Practice           
  • Association
  • Responsiveness                       
  • Custom             
  • Comprehension           
  • Link             
  • Kinship
  • Community of interests           
  • Appetite           
  • Habit             
  • Forte           
  • Pattern             
  • Linkeage
  • Being there for someone           
  • Hitting it off           
  • Knack                         
  • Quirk                       
  • Bond
  • Routine                       
  • On the same wavelength             
  • Relevance           
  • Idiosyncrasy               
  • Tie 
  • A simpatico relationship

EMPATHY! THOUGHTFULNESS! CONSIDERATION! I can JUST imagine what is going through your head. Yes, this list relates to networking even though it does not contain words such as business card or ice breaker. 

Yes, I’m asking you to THINK hard and dig deeper when it comes to building your dream network.

Do YOU have the curiosity, creativity and persistence to pull it off?

Networking is not soft squishy stuff. It’s not a to-do list of easy-peasy make it happen immediately one-application-works-for-all sh*t. 

It’s hard. It takes time. It requires, well, empathy which means customization and personalization. 

Networking is hard because it is a human activity. And doing the hard part, the work, using your wildly creative, critical thinking human side ignites real connections and your networking outcomes! 

So be human and do the hard work. 

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey is a problem solver who believes that most professional challenges—whether funding, landing a board position or getting a new job—are solved by tapping into networks.Kelly is a popular speaker on networking, community building and investing issues, especially as they relate to women, and has worked with the IEEE, PGA, Bank of America, Apple and countless others. Follow Kelly on Twitter @jkhoey and on Instagram @jkellyhoey and join the #BYDN community at www.buildyourdreamnetwork.com