Well Intentioned But Well Off The Networking Mark….

By June 25, 2018January 17th, 2019No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

A recently ignored, eye-rolling WTW email….

X — You should meet Kelly. Kelly is a rockstar and invests in female founded tech companies.

Kelly — X is in town for the next week wrapping up her round and looking for some strategic capital. You should meet her.

Flip to page 202 of Build Your Dream Network and the subchapter “The Dump and Drive” (it’s in the Chapter on Networking #Fails and for the sake of the strength, utility and resilience of your network I beg of you to take it to heart).

In short: Never ever, as in never-ever-not-on-your-life-under-any-circumstances assume.

Especially if you haven’t seen, heard, talked to the person in a while.

And take the time to sniff around to see what someone is up to (as the last time that rockstar was doing what you’re seeking help on today could be something that is now WELL in their past).

Discover the intersection of VALUE in the introduction. Yeah, the intro is good for (or needed by or sought out for) X but have you looked (or given a moments thought to the other side of the equation?).

Just because someone has the means, capacity, contacts, track record, history, passion — WHATEVER — does not mean they can or will act on your behalf now.

Lives change. Life gets in the way. Interests meander.

Lots of other people may have made the same ask and now the network is fatigued.

Reputational capital is not something that comes quickly or easily (and is definitely NOT something to be doled out at the drop of the hat — remember this as you should actively question anyone who flippantly offers to make “you two should know each other ” intros).

And read from page 202 to 204 of Build Your Dream Network (again).


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J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

Kelly Hoey is the author of Build Your Dream Network (January 2017 / Tarcher Perigee). She has been lauded from Forbes (“1 of 5 Women Changing the World of VC/Entrepreneurship”) to Fast Company (“1 of the 25 Smartest Women On Twitter”) to Business Insider (“1 of the 100 Most Influential Tech Women On Twitter”) and Inc. (1 of “10 Most Well-Connected People in New York City's Startup Scene”). Empowering A Billion Women By 2020 included her on their list of the “100 Most Influential Global Leaders Empowering Women Worldwide”. Not bad for a former corporate lawyer. She’s a limited partner in two emerging tech funds (Laconia Capital Group and Lattice Ventures) and can frequently be found on Twitter @jkhoey.