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Do You Hate To Ask For Help?

By September 8, 2020No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

If you hesitate to ask your network for help, you’re not alone. This reluctance can stem from feeling we don’t deserve assistance or fearing we’ll get rejected. Or often we simply don’t want to inconvenience the other person with our request. In this episode, Kelly shares how to overcome whatever is holding you back from approaching your network for help and explains how to put forward your ask in a way that won’t impose on others and will make it easy for them to say yes. 

Key takeaways:

  • Requesting help from people in your network can be intimidating, but don’t let that hold you back from reaching out in an intentional way.
  • Be aware of the current situations in the other person’s life, so that you can know what a reasonable request might be.
  • Do not assume your request would inconvenience them, ask the person in your network if they have the capacity to help you right now
  • Make your ask clear.

What to listen for:

  • 00:38    Why are we so hesitant to ask for help?
  • 02:12    Should you worry about inconveniencing another person with a networking “ask”?
  • 03:37    Secrets to overcoming the reluctance to reach out with a big networking “ask”
  • 04:03    How to find out if they have the capacity to help you right now
  • 05:50    Build Your Dream Network bottom line: make your ask clear.


“The failure to ask could be because we just don’t want to inconvenience the other person. Inconvenience is worth worrying about but it should not kibosh making an ask.” [02:27]

“Make your ask clear, and deliver it in a way that is highly convenient for the other person to provide you with an answer.” [05:53]

J. Kelly Hoey

Networking Expert + Career Transformation Coach + Author + Speaker, Kelly Hoey looks at "networking" through a new, modern, fresh lens, offering you (who are pursuing and perhaps struggling with your big ambitions), advice on how to connect for success in a hyper-connected world that is woefully short in its attention span. Her network-building advice is relatable, instilling confidence with actionable insights and practical information.