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The Career Storylies We Tell Ourselves

By February 12, 2015February 3rd, 2019No Comments
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What is YOUR story?

It matters. #HauteHopes inaugural conference with Lisa Abeyta challenging the conference attendees to think big and to think about what stories we are telling ourselves. Are you telling a story that is holding back?

Does your story include:

  • I’m doing this for fun.
  • I could have.
  • If I had tried….
  • I wasn’t interested.
  • Oh, I’m not sure it is for me.
  • I’m not qualified.

Are you cheating yourself out of a goal by minimizing your story?

Is your age — your career limiting story? “At my age” is not a story you should be telling yourself or the world.

Reframe your story. Own your story and tell a powerful one. Fear of screwing-up? Reframe the outcome. Did you really screw-up or did your actions result in a better outcome?

Don’t let someone else tell your story.

Don’t quit or make excuses, own your story.

Someone else’s journey is their story.

Don’t limit your story by deciding the outcome of someone else’s story.

What’s story are you going to start telling?

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey is a problem solver who believes that most professional challenges—whether funding, landing a board position or getting a new job—are solved by tapping into networks.Kelly is a popular speaker on networking, community building and investing issues, especially as they relate to women, and has worked with the IEEE, PGA, Bank of America, Apple and countless others. Follow Kelly on Twitter @jkhoey and on Instagram @jkellyhoey and join the #BYDN community at