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The Career Storylies We Tell Ourselves

By February 12, 2015February 3rd, 2019No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

What is YOUR story?

It matters. #HauteHopes inaugural conference with Lisa Abeyta challenging the conference attendees to think big and to think about what stories we are telling ourselves. Are you telling a story that is holding back?

Does your story include:

  • I’m doing this for fun.
  • I could have.
  • If I had tried….
  • I wasn’t interested.
  • Oh, I’m not sure it is for me.
  • I’m not qualified.

Are you cheating yourself out of a goal by minimizing your story?

Is your age — your career limiting story? “At my age” is not a story you should be telling yourself or the world.

Reframe your story. Own your story and tell a powerful one. Fear of screwing-up? Reframe the outcome. Did you really screw-up or did your actions result in a better outcome?

Don’t let someone else tell your story.

Don’t quit or make excuses, own your story.

Someone else’s journey is their story.

Don’t limit your story by deciding the outcome of someone else’s story.

What’s story are you going to start telling?

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

Kelly Hoey is the author of Build Your Dream Network (January 2017 / Tarcher Perigee). She has been lauded from Forbes (“1 of 5 Women Changing the World of VC/Entrepreneurship”) to Fast Company (“1 of the 25 Smartest Women On Twitter”) to Business Insider (“1 of the 100 Most Influential Tech Women On Twitter”) and Inc. (1 of “10 Most Well-Connected People in New York City's Startup Scene”). Empowering A Billion Women By 2020 included her on their list of the “100 Most Influential Global Leaders Empowering Women Worldwide”. Not bad for a former corporate lawyer. She’s a limited partner in two emerging tech funds (Laconia Capital Group and Lattice Ventures) and can frequently be found on Twitter @jkhoey.