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Some Motherly Advice

By May 4, 2016January 16th, 2019No Comments
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A number of years ago Elena Rossini asked me to write a mother’s day blog for her website “No Country For Young Women”. Awkward! By my own definition, my relationship with my mother is absolutely perfect: we don’t talk, haven’t in years. But not exactly the stuff for Elena’s blog….so here’s what I shared with her instead: ten things I’ve learned from my “mothers” — the inspirational, opinionated and fiercely strong women whose friendships, wisdom and guidance are an integral part of my life-story. Now their advice may have concerned practical matters, such as feeding dinner guests, but frankly, I think their advice has broader application:

1. Having good posture is powerful.
2. Age is an attitude — and as you can’t change your age, change your attitude.
3. When preparing for a dinner party, set the table first — your guests will think something is coming.
4. Whatever you do in life, strive to be the best.
5. The dishes can wait. Really.
6. Save the apologies.
7. Make your own bed.
8. Ambition never ever really dies.
9. Friendships transcend generations, and first marriages.
10. Sometimes, you need to eat dessert first.

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J. Kelly Hoey

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