J. Kelly Hoey

The Next Chapter Edition

“You’re a bit scary, actually.”

I was told this by a friend. One who loves me unconditionally. He said this out of concern. And after a lot of alcohol. He was asking me about my “status”.

Single.

My status of being single.

Being scary was his explanation for my current “status”. And I assume I’m scary because I laugh loudly, wear fishnets, leopard print and the color orange (sometimes at the same time), state my opinion, own it, Tweet it, write, share and swear, don’t ask, pack my bags as well as my calendar…very scary indeed. On the floor of the apartment building where I live, there are seven widows. They are not idle. I see them dashing to the elevator — off to Carnegie Hall, an exhibit at the MoMA, no time to chat because they’re rushing to get a mani/pedi. The only time they stop is to talk politics. “We’re Democrats” they tell me. “I’m Canadian”, I reply. They are my role models. They thrive in their “status”.

I met Soraya Darabi in early 2012. I was recruiting mentors for the startup accelerator I co-founded and she was working on a new, undisclosed project (Zady).

She said no. Years later she told me she felt guilty. On the other hand, I admired her unwavering focus — and realize now, after my own year of No that I did recruit her as a mentor.

I do not have a TV.

Content can be consumed on the internet or watched on the big screen in a bar. Or in a book. After a year of living, breathing, writing a book (and I know, I know, the real writing is yet to come when my editor sends back her comments) I could not pick up a book — too many words and thoughts cluttered my head. On my shelf, stoically gathering and silently supporting my writing efforts, the books purchased at one of my favorite social networking pleasures: Happier Hours.

With no must-watch prime time show and the patience to wait until the next season hits make it on Netflix, here are the words and worlds I’m jumping into:
  • Everything You Ever Wanted by Jillian Lauren
  • The Unfortunates by Sophie McManus
  • American Housewife by Helen Ellis
  • The Ramblers by Aidan Donnelley Rowley
  • A Window Opens by Elisabeth Egan
  • Everybody Rise by Stephanie Clifford
  • After This by Claire Bidwell Smith
  • Blackout by Sarah Hepola

And rather poetically — — Spinster: Make A Life Of One’s Own by Kate Bolick

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By J. Kelly Hoey on February 3, 2016. Canonical link Exported from Medium on September 6, 2018.

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