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New Year’s Resolutions

By January 6, 2016February 2nd, 2019No Comments
J. Kelly Hoey - Build Your Dream Network

In the inspiration can come from anywhere department, my decision to write a New Year’s Resolution post is the result of content I consumed alongside my first cup of tea this year — from the Pew Research Center and friends’ posts on Facebook. Not that I’m not a resolution maker (I’m a Virgo stay-focused list maker, so why would I wait to January 1 to set a self-improvement goal, when I can be hard on myself and do that 365 days a year?) however, a few ideas popped into my little throbbing head before leaving for the carnival parade….

Embrace optimism. American’s are wildly optimistic, and heck, I’m going to suggest we need a little more embracing of a things-can-and-will-get-better-because-we-have-the-ability-to-make-it-so attitude in 2016.

Stop overlooking what’s right. Michelle Ward aka When I Grow Up Coach has had a sh#t-kicker of year by anyone’s measure — and her final 2015 post on Facebook “Our adoption was finalized, our baby turned 1, I ran my first 2 half-marathons, had a record-breaking year with my Avon walk team, rebranded my website, started my podcast and broke into 6-figure territory with my business. I had countless laughs and have felt deep, true love and support” — was the massive incentive I needed to boot any powerless-feeling pity party to the curb, with a laugh (’cause what’s not right in my life can stay out of my way, as I have big audacious goals topositively focus on this year).

Be your own change agent — starting today, no excuses. Waking up to the announcement of Dr Sue Black’s OBE (for anyone outside the Commonwealth let me simply say this — it is a BIG f’g deal to get an Order of the British Empire aka a nod from the Queen that what you’ve done has made a difference to society) was a reminder that the biggest hurdles are those we impose on our own self-worth. Humbled to call Sue a friend, she does inspire me to think “Well, so bloody what? If I want to pursue this now, I will! Who cares if I “should” have achieved the grade or pursued the skill 20 years ago, today is as good as any day to start.”

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

Kelly Hoey is the author of Build Your Dream Network (January 2017 / Tarcher Perigee). She has been lauded from Forbes (“1 of 5 Women Changing the World of VC/Entrepreneurship”) to Fast Company (“1 of the 25 Smartest Women On Twitter”) to Business Insider (“1 of the 100 Most Influential Tech Women On Twitter”) and Inc. (1 of “10 Most Well-Connected People in New York City's Startup Scene”). Empowering A Billion Women By 2020 included her on their list of the “100 Most Influential Global Leaders Empowering Women Worldwide”. Not bad for a former corporate lawyer. She’s a limited partner in two emerging tech funds (Laconia Capital Group and Lattice Ventures) and can frequently be found on Twitter @jkhoey.