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New Year’s Resolutions

By January 6, 2016February 2nd, 2019No Comments
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In the inspiration can come from anywhere department, my decision to write a New Year’s Resolution post is the result of content I consumed alongside my first cup of tea this year — from the Pew Research Center and friends’ posts on Facebook. Not that I’m not a resolution maker (I’m a Virgo stay-focused list maker, so why would I wait to January 1 to set a self-improvement goal, when I can be hard on myself and do that 365 days a year?) however, a few ideas popped into my little throbbing head before leaving for the carnival parade….

Embrace optimism. American’s are wildly optimistic, and heck, I’m going to suggest we need a little more embracing of a things-can-and-will-get-better-because-we-have-the-ability-to-make-it-so attitude in 2016.

Stop overlooking what’s right. Michelle Ward aka When I Grow Up Coach has had a sh#t-kicker of year by anyone’s measure — and her final 2015 post on Facebook “Our adoption was finalized, our baby turned 1, I ran my first 2 half-marathons, had a record-breaking year with my Avon walk team, rebranded my website, started my podcast and broke into 6-figure territory with my business. I had countless laughs and have felt deep, true love and support” — was the massive incentive I needed to boot any powerless-feeling pity party to the curb, with a laugh (’cause what’s not right in my life can stay out of my way, as I have big audacious goals topositively focus on this year).

Be your own change agent — starting today, no excuses. Waking up to the announcement of Dr Sue Black’s OBE (for anyone outside the Commonwealth let me simply say this — it is a BIG f’g deal to get an Order of the British Empire aka a nod from the Queen that what you’ve done has made a difference to society) was a reminder that the biggest hurdles are those we impose on our own self-worth. Humbled to call Sue a friend, she does inspire me to think “Well, so bloody what? If I want to pursue this now, I will! Who cares if I “should” have achieved the grade or pursued the skill 20 years ago, today is as good as any day to start.”

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey is a problem solver who believes that most professional challenges—whether funding, landing a board position or getting a new job—are solved by tapping into networks.Kelly is a popular speaker on networking, community building and investing issues, especially as they relate to women, and has worked with the IEEE, PGA, Bank of America, Apple and countless others. Follow Kelly on Twitter @jkhoey and on Instagram @jkellyhoey and join the #BYDN community at