J. Kelly Hoey

From My Build Your Dream Network: Master at turning “wild” ideas into new realities — showing the rest of us how we can too, Nilofer Merchant

Number 10 in a series of mentorship stories I’m sharing this year. Mentors in my network who have helped me. And not only am I sharing takeaways that hopefully will be useful in your endeavors, as these mentors are also authors, I’m randomly giving away copies of their book (so read on!). IF you’ve missed the mentor stories I’ve previously shared — WHERE have you been! Check out the past stories and on-going #BYDN book giveaways over on buildyourdreamnetwork.com.

From My Build Your Dream Network: Author, speaker, innovator, leadership thinker, Nilofer Merchant. This is one of those stories where so many paths delightfully converge. And it begins in Canada with Tara Hunt. Tara introduced me to her mentor Nilofer back in 2011/2012 when I was focused on the startup accelerator Women Innovate Mobile. Nilofer and I met IRL in Silicon Valley. It was gloriously sunny and warm and we sat outside. Nilofer was confidently attired in a white pant suit. I regretted succumbing to startup attire (jeans). Nilofer signed on as a mentor for the mobile accelerator and immediately — as in we had not left the our initial meeting — introduced me to amazing tech insiders in her network who would also become instrumental mentors to the startups in the program. When the accelerator was shelved in 2014, Nilofer was there a role model and mentor on how to pick yourself up, reinvent, and pursue bigger ideas and horizons. My habit of taking head-clearing, idea generating long walks might have started around this time too…. Fast forward to 2017 and the publication of Nilofer’s third book, The Power Of Onlyness: Make Your Wild Ideas Mighty Enough to Dent the World…as I eagerly dived into her book, I find (to my absolute delight) at the start of Chapter 2 (page 23 to be exact), Kimberly Bryant’s story. Kimberly (founder of Black Girls Code) and I met on the fateful UnGrounded flight, the same time I met the formidable Dr Sue Black. I love how Nilofer shares Kim’s story as a ‘claiming it’ teaching moment. From page 32 of Onlyness: “What did you say no (or yes) to, whom did you decide to support or reject, and what did you decide to persist with, despite pressures to stop?

Hmmm. Own it. Claim it. Who knows what awaits you when you finally do.


Ready to participate in the next #mynetworktoyou #BYDN giveaway? I will personally be sending to one randomly selected winner a copy of Nilofer’s book ONLYNESS together with a copy of BUILD YOUR DREAM NETWORK — plus (once again, like a good infomercial there is a “but wait there is more” agin this time) a BLACK GIRLS CODE t-shirt in support of Kimberly Bryant’s amazing organization. How can you get your hands on this #mynetworktoyou #BYDN giveaway? What’s the super power you exert in your network? Do you bring people together? Keep them organized? Remember birthdays? Mediate disputes? What’s the thing that only you are known for within your inner circle or community?!!! Respond to this post with your answer (or contact me via my website or hit me up on Twitter @jkhoey or Instagram @jkellyhoey if you prefer). If you share your answer on social media use the hashtags #BYDN #mynetworktoyou. Can’t wait for your responses. Cheers, K. p.s. Next up from my #BYDN mentor network….Advisor, Entrepreneur, Mentor and Investor, the extraordinary Adrienne Graham. What is upcoming on the #BYDN calendar:

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