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From My Build Your Dream Network: Best Selling Author, Tom Peters

By May 9, 2018 January 17th, 2019 No Comments

This is the fifth in a series of mentorship stories I’m sharing this year. Mentors in my network who have helped me. And not only am I sharing takeaways that hopefully will be useful in your endeavors, as these mentors are also authors, I’m randomly giving away copies of their book (so read on!).

From My Build Your Dream Network: Best Selling Author, Tom Peters.

His Twitter bio reads “Reader, student, people watcher, writer, speaker, small biz owner, Navy Seabee vet, “people first”/MBWA bot, labeled “Red Bull of management thinking””. If you’re not following Tom @tom_peters on Twitter, correct that. Now. It’s really Tom (#BYDN readers know that I adhere to the rule — you can’t send someone else onto social media accounts for you…it would be akin to sending someone else to cocktail party on your behalf).

Tom’s been active on Twitter since 2008 — proof that social networks are not a passing marketing fad or a “thing” just used by digital natives.

I’ve followed Tom on Twitter since 2010. And at some point late that year, he tweeted back and the banter — and mentorship began. Then in January 2016 I had a ARE YOU KIDDING ME moment when Tom tweeted that he had pre-ordered my book. Ok, just a bit nerve wracking as well to have the guy with THE best selling business/management book for 30 years picking up your first try. I finally met Tom IRL (in real life for those non-Twitter types) in 2017 — and guess what? It was the same guy I talked to on Twitter except we now didn’t have to stick to 280 characters.

Here’s the #BYDN thing: social, 1:1, coffee date, Skype, text, voicemail — it’s all networking and the more we’re authentically ourselves in each of these networking venues the more opportunities we create to make meaningful connections.

Another reason why in spite of its warts, flaws, trolls and privacy concerns that I love the digital world is it democratizes access. When before Twitter would I have met Tom Peters and been able to strike up a genuine friendship? Gushing at a book signing is no way to find a mentor. Instead over time, a tweet at a time, trust was built up. Building relationships, the cornerstone for our success in life, is based on trust and building trust takes time. I’ll mention it again, I’ve been following Tom on Twitter since 2010.

When Tom offered to write the foreward to the paperback edition of Build Your Dream Network, well, I still can’t believe it.

 

P.S. Yes, I frequently share my insights IRL — not just in posts like this or on Linkedin or Twitter. I am represented by Penguin Random House Speakers Bureau. If you’re interested in having me speak at your event contact Erin Simpson via email: esimpson@penguinrandomhouse.com

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

Kelly Hoey is the author of Build Your Dream Network (January 2017 / Tarcher Perigee). She has been lauded from Forbes (“1 of 5 Women Changing the World of VC/Entrepreneurship”) to Fast Company (“1 of the 25 Smartest Women On Twitter”) to Business Insider (“1 of the 100 Most Influential Tech Women On Twitter”) and Inc. (1 of “10 Most Well-Connected People in New York City's Startup Scene”). Empowering A Billion Women By 2020 included her on their list of the “100 Most Influential Global Leaders Empowering Women Worldwide”. Not bad for a former corporate lawyer. She’s a limited partner in two emerging tech funds (Laconia Capital Group and Lattice Ventures) and can frequently be found on Twitter @jkhoey.