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Being of Service: A Build Your Dream Network Reader Shares Her Story

By May 21, 2018 January 15th, 2019 No Comments

Thanks for networking suggestions on Thriveworks re: acting like a host when you want to be approachable in a room. I laughed so hard when I read this because I suddenly realized I do it all the time!

Quick story: when the mother of a law school friend died a couple of years ago, I went to the funeral to support her. I essentially knew no one at the repast so the party planner and connector in me kicked it. I thought someone needs to take charge here by letting people know where to sit, get food for the elderly, etc. — so that’s what I did. Keeping busy and being concerned about the well-being of others, made the sad afternoon an enjoyable experience. I met so many more people, and heard so many more stories about my friend’s mom than I would have had I sat at the corner table with a couple of people I barely knew. Essentially, I made myself of service, for which my friend was eternally grateful for.

J. Kelly Hoey

J. Kelly Hoey

Kelly Hoey is the author of Build Your Dream Network (January 2017 / Tarcher Perigee). She has been lauded from Forbes (“1 of 5 Women Changing the World of VC/Entrepreneurship”) to Fast Company (“1 of the 25 Smartest Women On Twitter”) to Business Insider (“1 of the 100 Most Influential Tech Women On Twitter”) and Inc. (1 of “10 Most Well-Connected People in New York City's Startup Scene”). Empowering A Billion Women By 2020 included her on their list of the “100 Most Influential Global Leaders Empowering Women Worldwide”. Not bad for a former corporate lawyer. She’s a limited partner in two emerging tech funds (Laconia Capital Group and Lattice Ventures) and can frequently be found on Twitter @jkhoey.